One of the most painful parts of my work with couples is meeting two people who still matter deeply to each other—but who arrive in therapy after their relationship has already been hurting for a very long time. Not necessarily because they stopped loving each other. Not because they chose the wrong person. And not always because something terrible happened between them. Often, I’m sitting across from two people who once felt incredibly close. They chose each other, built a l

If you're a parent, chances are you've felt guilty recently. Maybe you lost your patience. Maybe you worked late and missed bedtime. Maybe you gave your child more screen time than you intended. Maybe you found yourself counting down the minutes until bedtime and then felt ashamed for needing a break. Many parents quietly carry a persistent feeling that they are not doing enough. What I find interesting is that this guilt often isn't coming from neglect. It's coming from love

By Shahrzad Jamali, RCC, RMFT Everlight Therapy | Langley, BC When people think of perfectionism, they often imagine someone who is highly organized, detail-oriented, and constantly striving for excellence. But in therapy, perfectionism often looks very different. It can look like the person who spends hours rewriting an email before sending it. The parent who feels guilty for needing a break. The professional who receives praise from everyone around them but quietly feels li

You finally get into bed after a long day, hoping to rest—but instead, your mind speeds up. You replay conversations. Think about tomorrow’s responsibilities. Worry about things you said, forgot to do, or can’t control. Your body feels exhausted, but your brain refuses to slow down. For many people struggling with anxiety, stress, or burnout, nighttime becomes the loudest part of the day. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Difficulty falling asleep, racing thoughts at

You manage demanding careers. You solve problems all day. You handle pressure well. So, it can feel confusing when your relationship begins to feel strained. Conversations become shorter. Patience wears thin. Small disagreements escalate quickly or get avoided altogether. You tell yourself it’s just a busy season. But over time, the distance grows. How Work Stress Impacts Relationships Stress changes how we show up emotionally. When you’re operating in constant performance mo

On the outside, you look successful. You meet deadlines. You solve complex problems. You carry responsibility well. People rely on you. But internally, something feels off. You’re exhausted — even after a weekend off. You can’t relax without feeling guilty. Your mind rarely shuts down. And the idea of slowing down makes you anxious, not relieved. If this sounds familiar, you’re not weak — and you’re not alone. This is often how burnout shows up in high-achieving professionals

Have you ever snapped in traffic and wondered, “Why did I react like that?” Or felt completely frozen after an accident, unable to move or speak? Or noticed that anger seems to come out of nowhere—faster than your rational mind can keep up? These reactions are not character flaws. They are survival responses. Our nervous system is designed to protect us. When it senses danger—real or perceived—it automatically shifts into fight, flight, or freeze mode. This happens in millise

How Counselling Helps After a Car Accident After an accident, many people experience symptoms of trauma, stress, or anxiety, even if the physical injuries have healed. Counselling offers a safe and supportive space to process what happened and restore a sense of safety and balance. Through trauma-informed approaches such as AEDP, EMDR, or somatic therapy, counselling can help you: Reduce anxiety, panic, or emotional overwhelm Process intrusive memories and flashbacks Improve

When You’re Tired Before the Day Even Starts You wake up tired — not because you didn’t sleep, but because you’ve been holding it all...

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“Where there is deep grief, there was great love.” Grief is one of the most profound experiences we can face. It is the last act of love...

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We often categorize emotions as either positive (e.g., happiness, hope, compassion) or negative (e.g., loneliness, resentment, jealousy)....

If you’ve never been to therapy before, you might feel nervous or anxious before your first session. This is a very common experience for...